Two years ago we told Squirt that Dad was going to be away for Mother’s Day and he was going to have to be in charge of making Sunday special and he replied “oh god”!!
A couple of weeks ago, Hubby’s roster arrived. A quick glance at the important events showed that Mother’s Day was going to be a solo affair again this year.
Maybe that would be something to be upset or annoyed about but to be honest, it really doesn’t worry me. I knew what I might be up for when we first started dating and its part of the package.
I even recall a conversation in the very early days of our relationship where Hubby told me “this job is terrible for families. I’ll miss birthdays, Christmases, school events if we ever have kids” and I replied “and you’ll be there some days to take your kids to school and pick them up and you can spend time with them when other parents might not be able to”.
I usually try to find the positives in a situation and juggling the roster is no different. We have very little control over how it will turn out (Hubby is disappointed as he has to miss a friend’s wedding this month) so can only make the best of what we get.
I like to look at the bigger picture. Mother’s Day is only one day – I have a partner who is my absolute rock. He has my back and supports me 100%. This is every day. I don’t need him here on one particular day to prove this to me.
I’m not saying we don’t have our ups and downs and some disagreements, we’ve been together 8.5 years and have 2 young children. Things get rough. But I know for a fact that he is committed to me and our children and will be there for us whenever he can. He already feels bad when he misses important dates. I like to make sure I don’t make him feel worse.
So today, as my Mother’s Day present to myself, I washed all the dishes, cleaned the kitchen, attempted to clean the rest of the house (seriously is that even possible with kids destroying it behind you?) and made Squirt’s school lunch in preparation for Monday. I feel like this kind of gives me a day off tomorrow!
The kids and I will visit my Grandma (my mum and mum in law both live on the other side of the country) and call my Mum and Hubby’s Mum and maybe actually put their cards in the mail – it has taken Squirt days to finish writing on them!!
I will delight in the bunch of flowers that Squirt so proudly presented me with at his school high tea yesterday and give thanks for the wonderful women in our life. Our mums, stepmum and grandmothers, the women who are like my other mums since mine is so far away and the other women in our life who are incredibly special. Mother’s Day is just a day and Mum is just a title. Celebrate the women you love today and everyday.